Wedding planning is a recipe for stimulating family drama to develop from conflict stirring up between the couple to the parents or even including extended family members like uncles, aunts, and cousins. Everyone has an opinion on their vision for the wedding.

Younger couples who come from more traditional families with strong cultural roots struggle to establish their independence before and after marriage. A high level of insecurity develops when your parents pay for the wedding and ultimately control almost every aspect of the event. 

The Couples Perspective

Control Your Wedding Vision

Initially, the plan was for a small park wedding. 

A young couple in their early 20’s were expecting a baby after falling madly in love. After finding out about the pregnancy, the couple decided to get married before the child was born. Deciding to tell their parents about their plans, they planned for a small park wedding with the idea of a more celebratory event for the first anniversary for all their friends and extended family members. 

Both of the couple’s parents were surprised by the news of the pregnancy and the wedding plans. They both had just recently attended college and had barely any financial foundation with their entry-level positions. However, they got the deposit put down for the park wedding, and the bride founded the perfect dress she could fit into before she started to show from the baby. 

Block Family Intervention 

The groom’s cousin proceeds to text him one day and ask if he’s happy with how his life is turning out. 

Few weeks passed, and the couple has dinner with the groom’s parents. His parents informed them that they found a venue, booked it, and put down 15,000 to hold the date. 

Since the bride is of Christian faith and the groom of Hindu faith, the two ceremonies would go one after another in one day, followed by the reception. 

This change alone was enough to cause friction in a love story where the couple got into a heated argument in the car ride back home. The couple had genuinely attempted to subject to his parent’s will since they lack a high enough financial income to sustain themselves, plan for a wedding simultaneously, and prepare for a newborn baby. 

Avoid the Can’t Fit Into The Dress Problem.

For everyone to have enough accommodation to make the event since it was two ceremonies, the groom’s parents further changed the wedding date. The bride, who was pregnant, could no longer fit into the original dress she desired due to being further along in the pregnancy. 

Unnecessary Extended Family Judgement

The groom was upset because he knew of his extended family’s judgment since his bride was pregnant before the wedding. The majority of the family had little to none contact with the groom in the past five years. Yet, most of them were invited alongside uncles and aunts close to the parents, with only one friend showing up for the groom. 

Gender Reveal Fail 

The couple not hiding from the fact they are now six months pregnant added an element to the wedding to make it their event. 

Gender Reveal In the Wedding Cake

Cut the cake and inside was either blue for a boy or pink for a girl. When attempting to cut the cake, most of the guests had no idea what the excitement was all about since the MCs were instructed not to announce this part within the program. 

Inside was blue. 

Sometimes It’s Best Not To Give A Speech

The groom took note of his father’s speech and was upset with the words he chooses to use in front of everyone. The father’s disapproval and attempt to separate himself was confirmed to the groom when his only friend asked him about the speech afterward. 

Dancing the Night Away

After starting bright and early at 5 A.M, the night winds down after the two wedding ceremonies ended with the reception. The bride and the groom look back at this day and sometimes wish they could recreate this moment to have started their love story together in their vision. 

Handle Family Drama

Couples planning their dream wedding need to block out the extra noise and remember to lean on each other. Intervention from a family member can cause unnecessary friction between couples. Control your vision for the wedding by only allowing those who support your ideas and thoughts to help fund the wedding.  

Hire A Wedding Planner 

Hiring a professional consultant can help advise avoiding situations like what this young couple with their newborn son faced during multiple life-impacting events at once. 

The couple, or at least the groom, further deals with the insecurity from having his parents pay for the wedding in the first place. 

Hiring that third party outside the family can help keep a level playing environment and serve as your tool to execute your vision with minimal family intervention within the planning process.  

It’s Your Moment

Weddings are a life-impacting event that only happens once in a lifetime. Focusing on your special moment and not having any regrets is critical towards starting a new life as a couple. Don’t allow any family drama to tarnish your moment.

Cherish this moment for all the little moments that have lead into this one big moment.

Every Moment Counts,